Tuesday, January 8, 2013

I Told You So

 I can not even tell you how many times in my marriage I have said this or wanted to say this.  I mean come on if my hubby would just listen to me sometimes things would go a LOT smoother (and I am sure he feels the same about me too).   

Well yesterday was one of those times.  The girls have been sick for several weeks now, the doctor said it was a viral thing and we needed to wait it out.  A couple weeks ago I thought it could be something else and wanted to take them back in.  Nope my hubs would not have it, and to avoid a fight I backed down.  Well yesterday we find out I WAS RIGHT!  Yep, the girls have exactly what I thought they did and I took them in to the doctor and we are now treating for this.

I am sure any of you that have ever been in a relationship understand how much I wanted to pick up the phone call my hubby at work and say I TOLD YOU SO!  But alas I did not do that.  I decided to be the bigger person here and realize that we all do make mistakes and instead of rubbing it in his face, which would surly have just cause a fight I would just let him know what was going on, bring him in to the conversation about the girls and let us both decide what steps to take now.

I have learned over the years that one of the big secrets of a happy healthy relationship is learning to bite your tongue   And bite my tongue I did.  We had no fight, I did not make my hubby feel bad, and everything that needed to get done did.

So this weeks lesson/goal for me is learning to bite my tongue.  It is not always easy but it sure does make for less fights and happier times.

Do you say I Told You So?  How do you feel when it is said to you?

9 comments:

  1. Silence really is golden sometimes--especially when it comes to "I told you so's. :) I'm glad that you bit your tongue--it's something I'm slowly learning as well. Great post!

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    1. Thanks! It can be hard to bite my tongue sometimes but it can be worth it in the end!

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  2. I make a point not to say I Told You So. I'm sure that he already knows I did and feels duly chagrined. Better that I simply offer to help him fix whatever it is.

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    1. Oh, it would be nice if I could type my own name correctly, wouldn't it?

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    2. Yeah, I am sure my hubby knew too. The whole thing worked out much better with not saying it. Thanks for stopping by!

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  3. Sometimes it is so hard to just keep my mouth shut. I have to remind myself that my Heavenly Father doesn't slam my mistakes in my face. He graciously forgives me. Newest follower. Thank you for sharing at All My Bloggy Friends last week. I look forward to seeing what you share this week :)

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