Thursday, January 3, 2013

Complimenting Your Husband

I tend to be a bit of a control freak, and that leads me to be critical at times with other.  Because people don't do things the way I would do them, I can get frustrated and annoyed.  Since my husband is my closest friend and the person I spend the most time with he tends to get the brunt of this from me.

So this week I am focusing on not being judgmental or critical and working on complimenting my husband more. Men are very much like us women and they want to feel appreciated, handsome, and needed.

Here are a few different ways to complement your spouse (or significant other)

The first is the most common, Physical Appearance.  If you are like me when someone says wow you look great today or those pants make your butt look great!  You feel like a million bucks.  Men are the same, well maybe not exactly the same but telling your husband that the shirt he is wearing looks really great on him or asking if he has lost a few pounds because he is looking really good will make him feel great!

Letting your husband know he is Appreciated is not as hard as it may seem.  Start by saying thank you, and letting him know that it was great of him to help with the dishes (even if you have to ask him to help).  Remember how great it feels when you get a pat on the back and are told thank you.  The more you thank him and show your appreciation with these little things the more likely he will be to do more of them too (so it could be a win win).

Men really need and want to feel Needed.  I find this to me my hardest challenge  because I do most of the stuff around the house and my husband can also travel for work quite a bit so I need to be independent and able to do it all on my own.  However, I do need my husband and letting him know that is not always easy but it can be done I just have to remember to do it.  Simple things like telling him how much the kids and I love him.  Letting him know things that I need him to do, and showing appreciation when he does them.

I know I said this is my goal this week, but this is something I need to work on all the time.  Everyone loves to be complimented and by showing my hubby how much I care and what he means to me I know it will do wonders for our relationship.

Do you complement your spouse?  And what are some of the ways you complement them?




34 comments:

  1. I think this is a great idea and I am pretty good at this, I wasn't always and my husband reminded early in our marriage that it was important, I listened and now we have been married 25+ years,so, I couldn't agree with you more :)
    Dropped by from Katherine's Corner (Lucy's Reality/Kissing)

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    1. It is good to know that it does work and that I am on the right track. Thanks for stopping by and congrats on 25+ years!

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  2. You are absolutely right to intentionally think about these things. We, or at least I, tend to function as fixers, which does not lend itself to helping our husbands be the men they truly do want to be. When I learned how to do this, much the same way you describe, my husband began to love me in a whole new way, a way that valued me as a wife. Go figure. Happy New year...

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    1. Thanks so much for stopping by. I am learning that marriage takes a lot of work but you get out of it what you put into it.

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  3. I'm horrible about these things, not because I don't think about doing them, but because in the business of our household (5 boys), I often forget. I need to remember this more....

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    1. I have been pretty horrible at them too. Hopefully by the end of this year this will all be more of a habit and I wont even have to think about it anymore :)

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  4. I can concur these things are great for making us feel good and when I get comments like these from my wife I tend to do more ;-)

    Found you from Thumping Thursday

    http://chandodaddy.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. My hubs tends to do more when I let him know how much I appreciate it too, I think we all do. Thanks for stopping by and becoming a new follower!

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  5. Think Heather will read this? Hummm....

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    1. Not sure, send her the link and we will see ;)

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  6. I like Lucy learned early on in my marriage that complimenting my husband makes thing more pleasant. I also send him little texts and emails to tell him out of the blue that I appreciate what he does for us.Stopping by from Acting Balance #15
    Happy New Year and thanks for the post.

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    1. It is funny how much a little compliment can mean to someone. Thanks for stopping by and Happy New Year to you too!

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  7. I LOVE all of this! I need to step up my A game my poor husband is feel neglected lately!

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    1. THANKS! And it is hard with little ones to remember to focus on your spouse, I know I forget that is why I made it my goal for 2013 :)

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  8. Hi. It is very true. My husband and I celebrate 10 years together this year. This is very important to do. We do this all the time with each other. We have just as much fun with each other now as we did 10 years ago, except without the awkwardness of a new relationship. Thank you for sharing this information with others.
    Thank you also for joining our community on the Thumping Thursdays Blog Hop.

    Karina
    http://momintheusa.blogspot.com

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    1. I sure hope after 10 years I can say we have just as much for or more too. Thanks for hosting the hop and stopping in!

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  9. Hi! I’m your newest follower. Please stop by and say hi when you have a chance. I'm also hosting a blog hop - if you would like to join us :) Hope you're having an awesome week.

    April from:
    A Mommy's Blog Design http://amblogdesign.com

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    1. Thanks for following. I headed over and linked up thanks for the invite!

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  10. You are correct.. we need to be specific and deliberate in our relationship with our spouse. Make sure to stay on the same team and battle the world together rather than battle each other.

    Great insight in the article.. I really appreciate your thoughts.

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    1. Thanks for the kind comments, and for stopping by

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  11. Great list. Glad I stopped by. New follower.

    Falen
    www.UpwardNotInward.com

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  12. This was wonderful to read! I think early in my marriage I was better, but then we had 3 kids and we've been busy that the compliments got lost. So now, 8 years in and I've been working hard to compliment my husband in a meaningful way more often. It sounds like I'm on the right track! :o)

    - Carmen
    I'm stopping by from the mommy brain mixer.
    www.thetriplebs.com

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    1. Glad you enjoyed the read, I have not been too great at the complements either. I think when the kids start coming focus on each other is lost. But I am trying hard to fix that!

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  13. Thanks for linking up to the Freakin' Friday hop!

    If you'd like to participate, I've nominated you for the Liebster Blog Award :) http://happyprettyblog.com/liebster-award/

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    1. Thanks for hosting. And thanks for the nomination, I really do appreciate it. However it is not really the direction I would like to go with this blog.

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  14. This was a great post! We all like to feel appreciated. If one takes a spouse for granted they are missing out on so much that helps keep a relationship alive and strong. Marriages take work, but the can be a lot of fun. An easy idea... leave hidden love/thank you notes for your partner to find!

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  15. Josie, it is so funny you mentioned notes. That is going to be my next post. Sent one with my hubby yesterday! Thanks for stopping by!

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  16. Nice post. I am my husbands biggest fan. Happy New Year wishes and thank you for sharing at the hop. I hope you will stop by again soon. I posted the new giveaway! xo

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  17. What a great idea! My fiance is simply amazing and I want him to know how thankful I am for each day that he is in my life. I am going to make this a focus as well.

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  18. So glad you linked up with us at No Ordinary Blog Hop! I think I'm your newest follower. My hubby and I are a lot alike but I'm thankful that when i get upset, he always remains calm.

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  19. hi. i'm following the GFC blog hop. i would love for you to visit my blog and follow if you like it.

    http://www.blackinkpaperie.blogspot.com

    thanks
    new follower bev

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  20. What a great post! Just found your cute blog through the blog hop. I'm a new follower. Hope you'll stop by sometime!

    RebeccawithanR

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  21. Thank you for linking this up at my Pin Me blog party. It's a very good reminder to take a step back and be less controlling. My husband said a few things to me right before Christmas and I've been holding onto my anger/resentment since then. Yesterday when my daughter asked him something his response (which related to one of those nasty comments a few weeks ago) was very caring and supportive. I felt a big weight off my shoulder because I was feeling burdened but didn't want to fight about it.

    We've been married for nearly 23 years and I do find that when I am focused on the positive that all those negative things don't matter. It really does set a tone for everyone. I am going to pin this to my relationship board at Pinterest! I'm also going to start following you. Please come share with us again!

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